The other day, my three-and-a-half year old son, Parker, came home from a sleepover at Nana and Grandpa’s.
As always, he gave his favorite three friends, the Cat In The Hat, Bill, and Frosty a big squeeze. My father-in-law smiled and said: “Those three got a real deal. I wonder what ever happened to Tiger.” It made me think. Tiger was his equivalent to a teddy bear. He slept with him, held him wherever he went. These days, Tiger is one of “all my animals”, he doesn’t get the preferred treatment of being with him most of the day and night. What changed?
We introduced stories. His favorite was the “Cat In The Hat. The long winter of 2013/2014 made “Frosty the Snowman” a big hit in our house, and “Baby Owls” (the youngest baby owl is named Bill) was a big bedtime favorite. We sometimes made Tiger hide behind the bed, or let him say something, but: He did not have a story! The character never became real.
There were no adventures, his entire being lacked a narrative. And that was that: Parker had not enough meaningful moments to sustain a strong relationship.
As a wedding photographer, this scenario triggers three important reminders for telling your wedding story:
All to often, I meet couples that mostly have one project they pursue together: the planning of their wedding. The moment that day is gone, the dream is gone and reality fills the vacuum. Weddings are not a goal, they are a milestone! The more important part is that the narrative of your life together creates a bond. The stories you share with friends and family make up who you are as a couple. When meeting new friends, you are often asked “How did you meet?”, because your story is what matters.
We live in a great time of sharing images, capturing moments and then making them accessible to a wide audience through our social networks. Never before in history has our life story been documented more visually than today and yet, very few images stand the test of time to tell your story because they lack focus or are technically weak to retain impact. We believe professionally done portraiture by an artist who takes the time to understand your story is makes the difference between having a party versus creating a milestone event. Wall portraits and albums make your love stay more real to friends and family and yourself, they help you to relate to and tell your story. What do you want your story to say?